Fertility issues can open up old wounds.  In fact anything in our life that is traumatic can destabilise us and send us back to feeling like we did in the past-to feelings and thoughts we perhaps considered we had let go of a long time ago.  

Fertility struggles can leave us feeling left behind or like we don’t belong, it can seem like everyone is having a baby and this can bring up feelings of anger, frustration and guilt.  Wanting to be happy for our family, friends and colleagues but feeling desperately alone, unseen and unheard.

It does not help that society does not always allow space to process our feelings, although there is more and more acceptance it can feel like a taboo topic to bring up and often others in our lives do not know how to meet us without feeling like they are saying the wrong thing.    

All of this is hard enough to deal with but when you add in being taken back to feelings from childhood or unprocessed emotions from years before it can make this even more difficult.  These feelings could be linked to not feeling like you belong, childhood attachment wounds and fears of abandonment.  It can take you to a place of constant fight or flight and emotional overwhelm.

Know that you are not alone and there is always space to talk-please feel free to contact me if this is something you resonate with.  Fertility counselling can be powerful during this time.