Online Infertility, IVF and TTC Counselling UK

If trying to conceive has left you feeling anxious, isolated, grief-stricken, or completely unlike yourself, you do not have to carry this heavy weight alone.

I provide specialist online fertility counselling across England, Scotland, Wales, and Northern Ireland. This virtual space brings expert clinical care directly into the safety, privacy, and absolute comfort of your own home, allowing you to process difficult moments without the added stress of traveling to a physical clinic.

I specialise in supporting women through every stage of their reproductive paths, including:

Complex fertility and trying to conceive (TTC) journeys
IVF, ICSI, and medicated cycle management
Donor conception journeys (egg, sperm, or embryo donation)
The profound grief of miscarriage, chemical pregnancy, and stillbirth

Trauma-Informed Counselling from the comfort of your own home

As a registered member of the British Infertility Counselling Association (BICA), this is an area of healthcare I am deeply passionate about. I understand how clinical and exhausting these processes are, and I am here to help you protect your emotional well-being throughout them.

To support you in the way that fits your life best, I offer both 1-to-1 online therapy and small, virtual fertility support groups that connect you with other women across the UK who truly understand what you are going through.

If you would like to explore working together online, please don’t hesitate to book a free introductory video call today.

Surviving the IVF Attrition Funnel

In the world of fertility, nothing quite prepares you for the emotional whiplash of the laboratory “drop-off.”

You celebrate a high number of eggs collected on retrieval day, only to watch that number shrink with every morning phone call from the embryologist.

As mature eggs become fertilized embryos, and embryos attempt the grueling five-day bridge to become blastocysts, the anxiety can feel all-consuming.

This is known as the IVF Attrition Funnel, and it is one of the most psychologically punishing phases of the entire journey.

How We Work Through It Together:

Managing the daily dread: We develop practical boundary-setting tools to help you handle the agonizing wait for clinic updates without letting panic take over your day.
Processing fragmented grief: We hold space for the unique, invisible loss that occurs when embryos stall out and stop growing in the lab.
Reclaiming your body: Using trauma-informed, somatic techniques, we help you quiet the physical “fight-or-flight” response caused by weeks of hormone injections and procedural stress.
Shifting from quantity to quality: We work on reframing the biological lottery, helping you untangle your self-worth from laboratory statistics.

If you are currently waiting between cycles, preparing for a retrieval, or processing a disappointing drop-off, you don’t have to carry this anxiety alone. Book a free call and let’s have a chat.

Why come to counselling for infertility?

Counselling isn’t about fixing the outcome of your treatment; it’s about ensuring that your identity and relationships survive the journey intact. Reach out to me today and we can start this important work together.

Why Transactional Analysis and infertility counselling?

Transactional Analysis (TA) is the modality I am trained in and it is particularly useful for individuals on a fertility journey. A common model used in TA is Parent, Adult and Child ego states dividing the self into three parts with different thoughts, feelings and behaviours. Using Transactional Analysis, we can look at the ‘Critical Parent’ voice that often blames the body for ‘failing’ and work toward an ‘Adult’ state of compassion and agency.

TA also uses the theory of “script”, that we all have a narrative that is our foundation built in early childhood. When going through traumatic events our script can be activated even more than usual, causing us to feel old emotions such as early abandonment wounds-feelings of being left behind. This script activation can make a fertility journey even more challenging as it plays into old patterns and behaviours that are no longer serving us and are not helpful in the here and now adding to an already painful experience.

When is the best time to start fertility counselling during an IVF cycle?

You can enter therapy at any stage during your reproductive journey. Many clients find it helpful to start before down regulation or an embryo transfer to build emotional scaffolding and nervous system regulation tools ahead of time.

However, I often support clients who reach out mid-cycle when the emotional exhaustion, side effects or waiting periods become overwhelming.

How does specialised fertility counselling differ from general therapy?

General therapy often focuses on surface level stress management. As a BICA member with an interest in this area attending regular training on the subject of fertility, I understand the complex medical vocabulary, protocols, and biochemical impacts of fertility treatments. We don’t waste your session time explaining the meaning behind HEFA regulation, AMH levels, or a two week wait. We step straight into processing the profound psychological and relational toll it takes on your life.

Can we focus on how fertility struggles are affecting my relationship?

Absolutely. Fertility challenges rarely impact both partners in the exact same way or at the same time, which can create a silent, isolating wedge in a relationship. Using Transactional Analysis we can explore how communication blocks or coping mechanisms have shifted, helping you both reconnect and navigate this intense medical trauma as a team.

Based in Edinburgh? I offer in person sessions at 22 Drumsheugh Gardens, EH3 7RN.