If you have just had a miscarriage or pregnancy loss-I see you and I am so sorry for your loss. It can feel heartbreaking, shocking and confusing. Whether you have experienced a chemical pregnancy, a missed miscarriage or an ectopic pregnancy-you enter into a world you may have never expected or hoped to be in.
Let yourself feel the emotions
Your grief is normal, your experience is valid. Let these emotions exist. It can feel like society wants us to brush off this experience and “be strong” but it is healthy and perfectly acceptable to give yourself time to sit in this sadness, anger and confusion. Perhaps even relief? Give yourself permission to feel whatever comes up.
Keep communication open
Communicate with your partner and lean on each other. Your process may well be on different timelines and your feelings may differ but giving each other space to share how you feel can be incredibly beneficial for the grieving process, however it shows up.
Honour your loss
Find a way to honour the loss of your baby in a way that feels right for you, whether this is journalling, writing a poem, planting a tree or buying a special piece of jewellery in memory of your baby.
Find specialised counselling
Counselling can be a powerful way to reflect on the experience you and your partner have been through. Talking to someone with experience in this area to guide you through your grief and offer a space to express and explore complex emotions can be a life line during this difficult time. Reach out today and book a free chat if this calls to you.